These days, it cannot be stressed enough how important it is to find a godly boyfriend or girlfriend. Second Corinthians 6:14 tells us plainly not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers—and for very good reason. We could probably write a book about the atrocities that can eventually come from a relationship that is not rooted in Christ. However, for the purpose of this article today, we are simply going to go over some tips to help you along the way.
Probably the most important step in finding a godly mate is to be godly yourself first. In 1 Timothy 4:8, we find that godliness is right in every situation: “…but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come.” You can’t go wrong by turning your life over to Jesus. In fact, not only will every aspect of your life be made more worthwhile, but you have a promise that life does not end with the grave! Being a godly person, yourself allows you to be able to surround yourselves with others who are godly. This paves the way for all manner of relationships, especially that of a girlfriend or boyfriend. The truth is, you can look for relationship advice in places such as talk shows, magazines, or books devoted to the topic, but the best advice comes from the Word of God.
The next step is to begin to cover your own future in prayer and dedicate it to God. It’s never too early to begin praying this way, as we are instructed in Philippians 4:6, to “Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.” Covering yourself in this way can really turn the tide when situations arise. Ask specifically that God would give you wisdom concerning those with whom you choose to associate. Ask God to guide you along the way, speaking to the direction you should be going and asking for a clear path to be set before you along the way.
Another important aspect of godly relationships is that both parties understand what the Bible says specifically about the different roles of both wife and husband. Again, we live in an age where lines are skewed, and people don’t really understand these things. In truth, many are afraid to even teach them for fear of offending others. Still, it’s so important that it is spoken of in the Bible for us to glean from for our own personal use. For instance, let’s look at this excerpt from the fifth chapter of Ephesians:
“Wives submit yourself unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”
There is much more in the Word that speaks toward godly relationships. In closing, be sure to check out the following:
Genesis 2:18, 24
1 Corinthians 13